Just Friends

**This is an insight on having a friend of the opposite sex. **

What is a "friend"?

A friend is someone you really trust. You share secrets. You show your true self to that person. Basically an open book because of the relationship you have to that person. But why can't you be romantically involved with that person? (most of the time...)

First of all, you are simply a friend so basically you are in the "friend's zone". Why do you think you share your deepest secrets with that person? Why do you talk about your own love lives? Why are you so open with each other? It is because you depend on each other when you have problems especially with your love interest. A friend is a wall to be leaned on. It is bound to stay as it is. It is static.

Next, friends are usually the extension of another. How would you feel if that extension is no longer? It is like an arm wanting to be your eyes... your ears... your lips. Now that would be absurd.

Then, your love for a friend is different from the love you give to your honey, darling, buttercup... (wtf! hehe) or whatever petnames you've got. Like ice and fire. Simply incompatible.

Finally, if you are a true friend, you wouldn't your friend to get hurt. So putting him or her in a situation that would entail romantic relevance would really hurt your friend. It has certain implications in your friendship. It's a mutual loss. And people get hurt in the process.

Though some friends do become lovers too. And former lovers do become friends. Then you can also have a friend and lover at the same time. The fact that is if you are a friend, stay as it is. It is not worth the risk. Your friend needs you... as a friend.

That is why personally, I promised myself never to court my friends, or my berks. It is simply not worth it. I tried once... but it wasn't worth it. ***

Oct-Dec 2004!!!